The bible tells us that we are “fearfully and wonderfully made” (Psalm 139:14), yet it’s still so easy to let self-doubt creep in and get the better of us. We all have times in our lives where our doubt takes over – it could be work, relationships, motherhood… – and it can be hard to get out of the “I’m not good enough” mind-frame. But a few reflective practices can get us on our way to kicking self-doubt to the curb and embracing self-love instead.
Stop Comparing Ourselves to Others
U.S president Theodore Roosevelt once said: “Comparison is the thief of joy.” And boy, did he hit the nail on the head with that one! When we compare ourselves to others, we are doing a disservice to ourselves and our Creator. Sometimes we forget, but we are made in His image. He knows everything about us, our strengths and weaknesses, and every teeny-tiny trait that makes us who we are; and He still loves us unconditionally.
Try a Social Media Cleanse
We’re so lucky to be in a time where technology can make our lives more comfortable, and being able to keep in touch with loved ones is a cinch now, thanks to the internet. But sometimes social media can be a blessing and a curse. It’s easy to forget that most people are showing their highlight reel, the side of their lives that want people to see, and aren’t always sharing the behind-the-scenes messiness of real life. If you find yourself comparing yourself to others online and it’s starting to affect you; STOP. Just don’t do it to yourself. It could be time for a social media cleanse. Limit your time on social media (or even take yourself off it entirely for a while) and spring clean the people that you follow. If the accounts don’t bring you joy, cut the cord. Life is too short to worry about how we stack up to people online.
Write it Down
Keeping a journal is a fantastic tool for stress management. It allows us to work through things in a safe space and can help to bring a sense of calm when your brain is going a mile a minute. There are so many ways to journal (Pinterest has endless inspiration) – day-to-day, goal setting, art journals, bullet points – you’re guaranteed to find your perfect fit.
Regular Bible Study
Life can be busy and sometimes making time for consistent bible study isn’t always easy. But when we show up, so does He. In Mathew 28:20, it says “I am with you always.”; and through prayer and scripture study, we can find the calm beyond the storm. Set a goal to put a little time aside every day for mindful study and amazing things will happen.
Meditation is known for its benefits like reducing stress and anxiety and increasing emotional wellbeing, all things that can help us overcome our self-doubt and draw closer to God. When we meditate, we tap into how our body is feeling, and we can direct our thoughts to self-love and compassion. There are some great apps out there to get you started on your meditation journey (our team like this one), with countless options to choose from.
So, next time you’re struggling with self-doubt, remember these tips. They may be just what you need to get you back on the path of self-acceptance. And remember, “Faith does not make things easy, it makes them possible.” (Luke 1:37)